Your Belief Regarding Love May Be Flawed

How many people have you seen who appear to be the perfect catch? They are good looking, intelligent, talented, and kind, yet they struggled to find the right one.

There is a belief regarding love that it is easier for some people–the models, the wealthy, the social climbers, etc to find love. Yet, this could not be further from the truth. I have known many models who struggled to get dates because no one ever asked them out since people were often intimidated by their looks. I have known wealthy and successful people who were apprehensive about having to weed out the ones who were interested in them for their bank balance. I have seen many social media personalities who have millions of followers yet are still quite lonely.

The truth is that everyone has the same chance of finding love. It all boils down to being in the right place at the right time with someone who just happens to connect with you in the right way.

Yet there is another belief regarding love that is even more inaccurate.

Most are busy searching for their true love, failing to realize that the truest love they could ever find is within themselves. That may sound hoakey, but it's true.

Here are 5 ways to discover your own love.

1. Enjoy spending time by yourself

Don't be scared of being alone. You are the only constant thing that you will ever have in your lifetime. Learn to enjoy that.

There is something liberating about doing activities on your own. You can visit a museum, sit with a nice book in a park or perhaps do yoga on the beach at sunset. Or if you want to be really daring, try going on a vacation alone–you will discover a whole new facet of yourself.


2. Be your own Kintsugi

Kingsugi is an old Japanese custom of repairing broken or damaged ceramics with gold. It came from the idea that true beauty stems from the history of the object and not from its aesthetics. The end result is an intricate pattern of gold, which holds the object together beautifully and delicately.

Embrace your own broken parts. No one is perfect and your imperfections are what make you wonderfully unique. Your flaws are as valuable and beautiful as gold.


3. This too will pass

If you are feeling lonely or in a relationship that makes you feel lonely, know that this too shall pass. The only certain thing about life is that everything changes. Trust in that change and have faith in the goodness that you can attract.


4. Don’t be your own worst critic

It is often easy to be harsher on yourself than others. Treat yourself with the same kindness and respect that you would give to a best friend. After all, you owe it to yourself–this is going to be life term.


5. Do things you love

Most people spend a lot of their lives doing things they do not love. Perhaps they have a full-time job that doesn’t make them feel happy. Even if finding a job you are passionate about is not a current option, this does not mean that you can not give your life more meaning by including things that you love. Perhaps there is an old hobby you let waste away or something you have always wanted to try. Don’t wait. Do these things today.


No matter where you go, remember that any belief regarding love begins with the belief in love for yourself.