5 Guaranteed Ways to Slowly Eat Away At Your Happiness

Everyone gets down. We have all been there. It is part of life and sadness is an important emotion that we can actually learn a lot from.

It is normal, however, to want to stop feeling unhappy if you notice that it is a daily pattern. Experiencing these emotions on a daily basis can be quite draining and will prohibit you from achieving your fullest potential.

Here are 5 things that may be sabotaging your happiness.

Self-pity

Focusing on all the things that have not been going right for you will not suddenly make those problems go away. If anything, it will make you feel a lot worse. Here is the truth. Everyone has to face challenges in life. The more time you spend feeling sorry for yourself, the more you will not be able to stop feeling unhappy. Try to change that emotion by shifting your attention to the things that have gone right for you.

Self-doubt

Have you ever heard the saying. "He who says he can and he who says he can't are both usually right"? The biggest killer of your dreams is self-doubt. And like a plant, the more you water it, the more it will continue to grow.

When that little voice tells you that you will fail or that you are not good enough, try to see past it rationally. Remember, those words are not true and it is actually stemming from a lack of confidence–not a lack of ability.

Lack of vulnerability

Being vulnerable makes you get out of your comfort zone, which is what will get you to grow. In the long run, you will find that this is far more fulfilling that remaining in a stagnant place of no change or advancement. Sometimes being vulnerable is being willing to speak up more for yourself. It could mean opening up to others who may not see eye to eye with you, but it is important to say how you feel.

Challenge yourself with doing the things that make you uncomfortable or even scared. You may discover that could help to stop making you unhappy.

Selfishness

A lot of people will tell you that you need to be selfish in order to succeed in life. And it sounds like good advice. But is it?

There is a time and place for everything but the reality is that the more self-absorbed you are, the more you will isolate other people. You will find yourself feeling lonely in no time. There are people who do seemingly selfless acts based on what they think they can get in return. Don’t be one of those people. It is important to be thoughtful and kind towards others–simply because it is the right thing to do. You will also end up feeling emotionally rewarded.

Lack of gratitude

The challenge with being down is that it is difficult to not think about those things that are making you sad. One of the best ways to stop feeling unhappy is to pay attention to the things that you have to be grateful for. It’s virtually impossible to feel miserable when you are feeling thankful.

Try to find things that you have to feel grateful for the next time you feel yourself getting into a slump. You may be surprised with the change it brings to your mood.

Check out 6 Ways to Practice Gratitude for a few other ideas on how gratitude can change your outlook.