How Embracing Sadness Can Help You Succeed

Ever since you were a child, you were taught to brush off anything that hurt you. And as an adult, your main focus became the pursuit of things that you perceive will make your life happy. No one told you that you should also embrace your sadness because of the vital role it plays.

The truth is that no one wants to be sad. People go out of their way to convince themselves and others that they are not. They distract themselves with everything else to avoid feeling sadness. Unwittingly, these methods only serve to create long-term issues such as depression and anxiety. According to psychological research, one of the main causes of many psychological problems is this habit of emotional avoidance.

If the current leads you to a place that is not happy, you do not need to keep trying to swim upstream. Not every current is in your control and that is fine. The beauty of this is that you do not know where that current can lead you to next.

I knew of a girl who discovered that her boyfriend of ten years repeatedly cheated (also with several of her friends). She moved out of their apartment, and not long after, she was laid off from work. A month later, she got news that she might have a terminal illness. Within the space of three months, she had no home, no job, no money and was facing the worst health scare of her life. On top of it all, she was completely alone as she was living in a different country far away from her family and friends.

Fast-forward to two years later, she had beaten her health scare and was happily engaged to a new guy. And with all the time she had off, she focused her attention on creating a company surrounding a hobby of hers. A couple years later, she made her first million.

Of course, in the beginning, she cried and didn’t have the willpower to even get out of bed on some days. Yet, even though she allowed herself to grieve, she decided to have faith in wherever those currents were taking her next.

When you embrace your sadness, here are 3 key things you will gain.


As cliché as it sounds, bad things help you to discover new facets and strengths within yourself that you never knew that you had before. There are countless victims of horrific tragedies who then went on to become role models because of their valor.


Learning to embrace your sadness will give you much-needed clarity over the circumstances that led to you feeling down. For instance, if someone often says hurtful things to you, brushing those words off facilitates keeping something negative in your life. Recognizing that their words are harmful, upsetting and not in your best interest will allow you to make decisions for your higher good.


“Once bitten, twice shy.” When you feel hurt, it forces you to develop an intuition with identifying similar patterns. Perhaps you may have trusted someone who let you down in a grand scale. The next time you see those warning signs, you will have better experience and wisdom with how to tackle things.

There is a trend that encourages the notion of constantly being positive. The reality is that being happy all the time is not possible–nor should it be a realistic expectation. All emotions are important and serve us well–both the good and the bad.

The next time your heart is heavy and you feel like crying, embrace your sadness. Tears are your body’s way of giving you a much needed hug.

If you have been affected by this article and are suffering from long-term emotional issues or depression, please seek further counseling if you think you need it. For alternative methods, please see Healing Techniques or Things to Do When You Can't Afford a Therapist.


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