This Isn't The End. Turning Tragedy Into Triumph

Recovering from a devastating loss takes time. Whether it is losing a loved one, losing your job, or ending a relationship, you will need to find a way to move forward. Turning tragedy into triumph can be a challenge but it is not impossible.

We all face obstacles and hardships in our lives. It's how we react to those challenges that make us who we are. Our strength and perseverance come from the times when we were put through the trials that were designed to test our resolve. You may walk away with a few scars but in the end, you came out the victor.

Follow the Grieving Process

Anger, denial, bargaining, depression and acceptance are the five stages of grieving. When a tragedy occurs, no matter what kind it is, allowing yourself to move through the grieving process will help you make sense of it all.

During the stage of anger, anger and frustration can cloud your judgment making it difficult for you to accept how things turned out. In denial, denying the tragedy often hides the pain and can cause it to resurface when you least want to deal with it. In the bargaining stage we often try to bargain with ourselves or others to find an easier way to cope. Every tragedy is accompanied by some degree of depression. Finally, getting to the stage of acceptance allows us to accept what has happened and to file away the memory. With that task completed, we can take what we now know about ourselves and begin the building process.

Don't Rush

Don't rush through your emotions or push others away in the process. While you don't want to get stuck in the proverbial rut, you also don't want to move so fast that you forget to care for yourself in the process. Take your time picking yourself up. Feel your emotions and process through them one at a time. It is extremely important that you take the time you need to put things into perspective. Learn what you can from the experience. Cherish your memories and find healthy ways to calm the turmoil and pain.

At various stages during the grieving process, you may be overcome with emotion. That's fine. It's part of the journey. There will be days when you feel as if there is no end in sight. The best way to find your way out of the despair is to create one. Use your creativity. Try drawing, journaling, making music, or simply creating. Plant a garden or go on a short day trip and let your mind wander. Remember that as you are moving forward, you may need to create a positive space that allows for what you need at the time.

Learn to Show Gratitude

As you begin to work through the process and the light at the end of the tunnel becomes a little clearer,  you will begin to appreciate the things around you. While a tragedy can be devastating, it doesn't take away from the things you still have in your life. Your family, friends, hobbies, interests, everything you hold dear can be looked at somewhat differently. Even things you may not have appreciated before take on a new light. Even though it will be difficult at first, learn to replace the pain of loss with the gratitude of what is still here. Acceptance and gratitude go hand in hand and will help to ease the pain of your loss.

Tragedy can be looked at as a harsh ending, or it can be perceived as a new beginning. Always remember to cherish and appreciate the past, but by the same token, you need to remember that the future is a gift that hasn't been opened yet. Don't let your grief for something that you have lost cost you an opportunity to move forward to something that may be just as precious and rewarding.

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